Okay so you’re still single. The clock is ticking, there’s pressure from home and wedding bells keep ringing but you don’t seem to be hearing them from where you stand.
I get it. Frustrated doesn’t even begin to cut it; plus the worried looks from your mom and aunties who keep suggesting various prayer conventions that you should attend, isn’t helping matters much.
Bright side though? Being unmarried isn’t a death sentence. There’s no ring on it yet, yes but It’s YOUR finger.
YOU get to decide if you’ll use it to pull a trigger on yourself or flip society off with it!
The funny thing is, there are quite a number of perks that come with being single. Yes, I said perks and most people never explore this other side while they’re busy swallowing Panadol Extra after yesterday’s night vigil. So here I am, your Lewis AND your Clark, to help y’all discover the opportunities you have blinded yourselves to.
1. You get to keep your figure:
It’s a known fact that girls or women who get involved in serious relationships or marriage tend to just let themselves go. The logic seems to be: ‘well, I’ve been gettin’ my hair and nails done and hitting the gym coz I wanted to meet someone and now that I have, what’s the point? Bae would love me no matter what I look like. Besides, If he had any complaints, he wouldn’t be buying me all that chocolate, would he? ‘ In a recent study, 62 percent of couples surveyed said they gained weight after committing to a serious relationship.
62 per cent. That’s well above average.
You on the other hand, still strive and struggle to stay fit ‘coz well, who doesn’t want those stares from the hotties in the weights section.
And if your body isn’t where it should be, there’s also more motivation to get in shape so that you do not ‘carry last’ in the long run. So uhh… Get fat too early from romantic gestures from ‘baby boo’ or impress that hot single gym instructor with how long you can stay on the treadmill? Hmmm…tough choice! -_-
2. You sleep better:
‘Beauty sleep’ isn’t just an expression, it’s a precondition if you’re gonna keep looking fresh and glowy. While you’re single, you get it in truckloads and in whatever style, at whatever time and in whatever clothing you choose with little or no disturbances.
So loud snoring, constant thrashing, sleep talking or *shivers* Dutch ovens? That all falls under marital ‘bliss’. Fly solo on your Queen size bed while you still can.
3. Raise your job opps. considerably:
Another way your single status comes in handy is giving your job applications a boost. Not because of pervy bosses with disgusting libidos, (even though that’s sorta inevitable), most bosses just simply come to the logical conclusion that single people work smarter, are more coordinated and have less distractions than their married counterparts. So in other words, Toke might have the wedding ring but you got the other ring; the phone call from the company you both sent applications to, asking when YOU can start.
God Bless the Hustle
4. Get up and go:
When you are a single woman, you don’t have the concerns that married chicks do. You can pick up and go anywhere you want, anytime you want, without having to consult with anyone or take rain checks because something came up or your kid’s graduation ceremony takes priority. You might occasionally feel that you have too much empty time on your hands, but you can fill that time any way that you want with whatever you want, which should be especially easy if you’re an extrovert or have a creative mind.
5. Get to know you:
A lot of women let marriage or society’s opinion of a woman’s role, define them, which leaves them with absolutely no idea of who they are or what they are capable of. Not having an ambition or personal principles or goals and aspirations, is a terrible thing. Therefore, if the universe was kind enough to not entrap you in too-early-a-marriage, it leaves time for you to go on a self discovery mission and find out who *insert name here* really is and what she’s all about.
A man should be dessert; you’re the main course.
6. Turn Valentines Day into Gal-entine’s Day:
Who died and made February 14th for couples only? While the love birds are stuffing their faces with chocolate and expensive wine, you could dedicate that day to having a fun day or night out with the girls or just having some awesome me-time with a movie or some music.
The bottom line? Pity parties are lame! Actual parties? Awesome! And you’re never too old to have a great time, so do.
DISCLAIMER: While I discourage pity-parties and self-loathing, I am also not an advocate for that new age liberated independent woman bullshit. You DO need a significant other in your life; no-one can exist as an Island. Mr. Right will come. He should. And when he does, you better let him in. But in the meantime, all I ask is that you LIVE.
You’ll find something the second you stop looking for it. A watched pot never boils.
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